Over the past few months, I have been faced with a challenge…it hasn’t been easy, but it sure has been a key learning experience. Now you can get wound up in your life, personal or work/business challenges or you can note the challenge for what it is and make sure you don’t let it define the totality of who you are!
Let me explain further. So say the challenge is a financial challenge, is that part of your life, your whole life? Or is part of your life?
What if it is a relationship issue, say it is a pending break up or divorce. Is that relationship your only relationship? It could be a key relationship, but you have many others too…so do not let the relationship challenge, the one relationship that is giving you grief, define who you are!
Learn from your challenges. Ask yourself, what can I do better? What was my role in this? What would I change the next time? What can I do now?
Understand the challenge, what is the gift in it? What is wanting you to do? Go deep inside, meditate on the challenge and ask your soul or your internal self in the moment of quiet and solitude, okay, what do I need to do to move forward? Ask for guidance and direction, be open to new things.
The bottom line is not to get so wrapped up in the one challenge, that the rest of your life gets neglected.
There are other parts to your life. You have a social life, a spiritual life, a community life, where you give back and donate time, money and energy, you have family, work, your business, your learning part of your life, you have the financial part of your life too. There are so many aspects about you that still need tending to…that actually go above and beyond the challenge you are facing.
I equate a challenge as a gift. It is in a box…a nice gift box. However, when the challenge comes out (Like a Jack in the Box), it startles you, it cries for your attention…but then there is a distinct foul odor coming from that box…the challenge box is really beginning to smell badly…however, you have no choice but to deal with it.
You must deal with that challenge. It is about you that challenge. Is your thinking stinking? Just like the odor in the box? Is your stubborn behaviour in the way? Are you closed to change? Are you doing the same thing over and over and expecting a new result? As Einstein once said, that is the definition of insanity!
Your challenge is a great way to learn something. View it as an opportunity to heal, to learn, to gain…and I promise you good things will come out of it and that bad odor emanating from the box…well that will go away.
Be in your truth about the challenge. Come from your heart when moving through it. Do your best each day!
But! Before I leave you here are 3 things you must do to achieve a positive outcome…
- Accept it. On some level, for your life lesson, you brought this challenge forth, accept it and accept yourself through the challenge. In other words, love who you are, the good, the not so good and the ugly. Okay? Can you do this?
- Learn from it. See the good in the challenge, there is always good and if you dig deep inside, it is ultimately setting you on a more fulfilling path. For example, if it is a work challenge, maybe it is time to leave that job and do something you’ve always wished for! At first glance, losing your job sucks and it is scary to be without income for a while, but on the other hand, you now have a new opportunity to truly do what you love to do! Do you see the good in that?
- Choose a new reality that lights you up and drives you. Instead of immersing yourself in the pain and agony of the challenge, look beyond! What can be next for you? Where do you want to go and what would you love to do? This more than anything is the gift of a challenge. It is an opportunity. A chance to move from the old, that is not working and move into a new reality, a new goal, a new way of being that is more in line with who you are!
Make it a great week!
David is an author, business coach and facilitator and was the former host/producer and creator of the Small Business Big Ideas Show heard weekly for over 9 years. David has taught thousands over the years in both the non-profit and for profit sectors and has coached hundreds of start-ups to make those important first steps. He specializes in helping small business owners mine their strengths, get clear on their value, their markets and then begin to develop a sales and marketing game plan that gets results.
He also can be booked to do his keynote presentations; “The 8 Keys to Success, How I got to Kiss the Stanley Cup and his new keynote called “A breakthrough-through the glass”- how to overcome the fear that life and business might throw your way. He leads workshops in sales, marketing, market research, business plans, target marketing and customer service programs. David is currently with the City of Toronto, heading up an entrepreneur training program for inner city youth and adults. He has taught thousands and coached numerous clients in the area of Small Business Start-ups and business growth strategies.