How to overcome the gnawing need for change, so you don’t do anything to harm yourself






This week, I had a moment of anxiety. I wanted to change a circumstance I am facing so badly, that I wanted to re-act immediately…

I could have made a rash decision, or made a mistake in acting on that anxiety and immediate impulse to shift or change gears.

Had I acted, I might have gone off track and perhaps had been premature in my haste and desire for changing a circumstance I was wanting.

These feelings can pop up in so many aspects of our lives.

Be it from changing a relationship situation and leaving, to moving to another city, or moving in general, to quitting a job, or changing your health and wellness regimen to something perhaps not so healthy for you!

When you have these periods of anxiety, it is important to breathe into the anxiety. Get centered, ground yourself, meditate and let go of the emotions that are having you act out of anger or that burning need for change…

You cannot be “re-active”, instead you want to be “Pro-active”. Make the change you want, but do so in a mental state of calm and not out of emotion.

Now, don’t get me wrong, that raw emotion, the anger, the burning desire for change is good…but don’t let it rule you out of spite.

Remember to breathe into the feelings, feel the feelings, journal, meditate, go for a walk, but be with those feelings, it is totally okay!

But, what do you do, when the desire for change is still so great? That you could just quit, leave, move, or do something re-active in the moment?

If you do something in a re-active state, there is a good chance that your acting in haste might backfire on you and that the action will result in regret.

To avoid this…as already mentioned, get your bearings, think…what do I want, what is my long term goal, is a rash decision now, truly in my best interest? What do I truly want and what steps do I need to take to get there?

Once you have a clearer perspective, you then want to think of your goals and then write down your most immediate plans and action steps…

This makes the desire for change real.

Decide on what actions you can take immediately? What steps need your attention first?

You want to have a plan, to give thought to your desires, goals and need for change.

Think it through, make your goals SMART…make them specific, measurable, attainable, realistic and timely.

Once you put your ideas to paper and have some kind of thought out plan, it will calm you down and give you the focus and structure to make that change you want.

The key is, you won’t change out of a reactive state, but will do so in a pragmatic, thoughtful way, that will yield you long term, positive results.

If you are seeking massive change, remember, one step at a time, trust me on this, you will get to your destination and when you arrive…all will be well!

Make it a great week!

David Cohen




David is an author, business coach and facilitator and was the former host/producer and creator of the Small Business Big Ideas Show heard weekly for over 9 years. David has taught thousands over the years in both the non-profit and for profit sectors and has coached hundreds of start-ups to make those important first steps. He specializes in helping small business owners mine their strengths, get clear on their value, their markets and then begin to develop a sales and marketing game plan that gets results.

He also can be booked to do his keynote presentations; “The 8 Keys to Success, How I got to Kiss the Stanley Cup and his new keynote called “A breakthrough-through the glass”- how to overcome the fear that life and business might throw your way. He leads workshops in sales, marketing, market research, business plans, target marketing and customer service programs. David is currently with the City of Toronto, heading up an entrepreneur training program for inner city youth and adults. He has taught thousands and coached numerous clients in the area of Small Business Start-ups and business growth strategies.